To compliment or to not compliment

Why do people rarely give compliments to each other?

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Today I thought about the fact that people very rarely give compliments.

I somehow unconsciously always say them. Friends, relatives, strangers. It’s often times strangers (they are not used to it, unlike me): someone pretends that I don’t exist; someone begins to convulsively recover; someone smiles awkwardly and hurries to run away; on very rare occasions, I hear gratitude and feel favor in return.

I have girlfriends who are sure to receive a compliment, notice a small detail, praise for an achievement. It motivates. It covers. There were those who more often paid attention to people I didn’t even think about when I left the house, for example.

If I see something “wrong” with a loved one, I always speak especially with heartfelt words, for example, either correct something myself (if we are in sufficient contact) or implicitly hint. Not because I am so inspired and always see only the best. No. This is strange. After all, everyone notices everything perfectly. I just have this care for the roads to the hearts of people.

But practice has shown that not only to them. Today I went to the mall. I saw a teenage girl who was clearly in a hurry to go on a date. Her back coat was slightly dirty. I don’t know: whether it was my stylistic perfectionism, or the desire to help and the rescuer syndrome, but I caught up with her, told her how wonderful she looked, cleaned her coat, helped transform the image and she went on a date. A few minutes ago, I received a thank you message in Direct. Got a warm feeling.

This is not what I need at all and always pay attention too. No. What I mean is that doing/saying/showing something good is always important.

I love giving compliments. Probably because people really don't talk much. Plus, I’m sure that it’s important for everyone to know what they’re cool in, what they could do, how beautifully dressed they are, and so on.

It seems to me that there are so many bad things in the world, so why keep silent about the good, right?

I try not to lie, etc., but find something beautiful in everyone.

And it often happens that you say a compliment - and the person is even lost. Because no one tells them.

Tell me, do you often receive compliments How do you respond to compliments from strangers? Do you consider them important?