Why do we judge so quickly?
Every day, for many reasons, without noticing it, we rush to conclusions by judging the book by its cover.
Our brain, in order to feel calm, obviously wants to minimize any uncertainty, and it is in a hurry with “verdicts”. A tiny manifestation of some feature or just a deceptive impression is enough, as we mentally say: “Everything is clear! This girl is very shy, this one is too self-absorbed, this man is mean, this one is boring, this one is so haughty.”
But surprising discoveries are made when we simply give people time, not in a hurry to immediately shove them into a cramped place in the filing cabinet. And now the girl who is “too passionate about herself” helps the waiter who dropped the dishes, the stingy man leaves a good tip, and the one who seemed boring just had a hard day and is not in the mood to participate in the conversation.
As soon as we remind ourselves that we really don’t know anything about those who happened to be nearby, at the next table in a restaurant or in line at the dentist, life is in a hurry to scroll through the kaleidoscope again and fold the pieces of glass into a new pattern.
Sometimes you need to at least count to 10, and the picture will change.